LOST IDENTITIES

Its been days since my last post.Well i had nothing to blog about.yesterday i got into a discussion with a friend about how the world is full of hypocrites.That really made me wonder how all of us are losing our own identities.People often pretend to be some one they are not.We do this for various reasons.Guys do this to impress girls and vice versa.people at their workplace are turning into sycophants instead of being truly sincere.This might help them to attain few immediate goals that they are seeking but in the long run sycophants end up conflicting their own ideologies.There is so much of flattery all around.For an instance if a friend who is obese comes out wearing a dress which is a size smaller for her and asks us "how do i look?"what do we do?we tell her in a very convincing manner "dear that dress looks great on you".What we dont realise is that the same friend whom we lied so as not to hurt her feelings ends up becoming the laughing
stock of the town.People never speak the truth the way it is just to please the other person or to get something done for themselves.people are becoming highly pretentious.I have seen people visiting temples just because others around them do so and i find it very lame and dumb.I have always believed idol worship is not the real way to connect to god.People do this just because it is considered virtuous.There are as many as seven sins and to pretend that one is completely virtuous and godly without any sin is completely insane.We are born to commit sins and make mistakes that is how god intended it to be.We make mistakes so that we learn.So instead of hiding our shortcomings we should try to overcome it and who knows people around us might help us do the same.
People often try to ape celebrities or for that matter even their influential or more popular friends.people follow fashion trends like crazy.They hardly ever give it a thought to what actually looks good on them.
The best exampleof this prententious nature is when people speak with a funny accent just to sound cool.What they actually end up doing is making a fool out of themselves.Every one in this world is unique in his/her own way.
We need to maintain our idiosyncrasies.Only when people accept you for who you are ,you realise your real worth.Individuality is the word of  todays time.You would never know who loved you truly if you keep on pretending to be someone else.So just be yourself and accept people for who they really are.

The cheerfulness in the smile

of a child i see

The happiness i experience on

seeing a blooming flower

and the contentment of watching

the rain shower

The elation of walking on

the wet grass

and seeing dewdrops on glass

The euphoria of sitting in solitude

and eating your favourite muffin

truly can be compared to nothing

The tranquility of watching the

sunset and sunrise

somehow makes me a little more wise

The joy of giving

to the people who have to

beg for a living

The enchantment of gazing at

the starry sky and the still moon

and the gladness of being able to

catch that much needed siesta in the afternoon

The affection in the wagging

of my dog's tail makes me

pat him without fail

often i wonder how these simple

pleasures of life

truly make it worthwhile

People in this dog-eat-dog world are getting entangled in the cobwebs of responsibilities and duties.

We are constantly trying to keep up with the so called norms of the society.Students face peer pressure and feel their world will come to an end if they don't get the new gadget that their friend just bought.

Young girls starve themselves to death to acquire that hourglass figure of models on glossy cover of fashion magazines.They make it a point to add every new gucci bag,jimmy choo shoe and prada dress in the stores to their wardrobe before everyone else.

People at work face stiff competition and slog 24*7 in their suffocating cubicles.

In this hustle and bustle of keeping up we forget to give some time to our own jaded mind and restless soul.

How many of us actually spend the early morning with just a hot cuppa of freshly brewed coffee in our hands with nothing else to do and nothing else to worry about.I am sure there would be very few,if any who can say that they do this.

We either switch on the television to catch the morning news or the repeat telecast of the daily soap that we missed the night before or flip through the newspaper worrying about the falling stock shares,inflation,increasing crime rate in the city so on and so forth.

I dont deny that these are issues to be pondered upon but i do feel the first few minutes in the morning should be just for one's own self to enrich our own mind.

There was a time when people enjoyed walking on wet grass the distance of the journey hardly bothered them the sheer pleasure of holding hands and walking kept them on the go.

Now they drive their car to the nearest grocery store which is just a few steps away.I find this very ironical when people first drive to the nearest park and then get down on their foot for a morning jog.

We have forgotten the warmth of a sweet,lingerging,real conversation with a friend instead we choose to spend hours on facebook,orkut,twitter and other such social networking sites within the comforts of the four walls of our house.

when was the last time you gazed at the sky filled with zillions of stars,stared at the ever romantic moon and thought about your beloved(i am damn sure not in this century).

we have forgotten to enjoy the relief and pleasure of that first downpour and the smell of the wet earth instead we choose to snuggle up within a blanket and waste a rainy day sleeping.

What i see these days is the death of romanticism and it disappoints me a lot.

If people start enjoying these simple pleasures of life from time to time they would be much more happy.

So people give importance to your work and duties but do not forget to take a few escapades,do a waltz in the rain,freak out and as they say just take a chill pill.

Happiness-a state of mind

what better way to start my blog with,the greatest feeling in the universe happiness.Hapiness holds different meanings to different people.For the poor its little money that can buy them food.For the rich well,it's more money.For some its the love that they find in their beloved's arms for others its the affection they see in their mother's eyes.As for me i am a staunch believer of the saying happiness is like a butterfly the more you chase it the more it will elude you,i know it sounds cliched but its true.Afer watching a lot of movies relating to this and reading a lot of self-help books(yeah i do that!!) i came to realise that happiness is nothing but a state of mind.We are as happy or as sad as we think ourselves to be.people with no money can still try to be happy and thank god for they are alive and can work towards earning money.For god helps those who help themselves.Even people who go on cribbing about the lack of love in their lives and claim that they are lonely can be happy.As a moment spent in solitude and self contemplation gives more happiness than a lifetime spent with bad company.Its all about what goes on in your mind.Numerous thoughts flow through our mind each and every second.Its the quality of these thoughts that determine our state of being.The bookThe Monk who sold his ferrari taught me a lot in this regard(Its a great book and i strongly reccomend it to those who have not read it)Mr.Robin Sharma rightly says that enlightenment comes through the consistent cultivation of your mind,body and soul and as written in the book not just happiness but everything that we feel and do has a direct connection with our mind.Even the feeling of exhaustion can be linked to our mind.We are as exhausted or as energetic as we think.We can choose to be the masters or slaves to our mind.The choice is in our hands so lets resolve to master our own minds and make every moment of our life joyful and worth living.